Overcome Indifference and Make Positive Changes – Part 2

In part one of this two-part post, I wrote about the problem with indifference.

Not only does a lack of interest in life contribute to mediocrity, we also fail to achieve our goals and dreams in life.

In today’s post, I’d like to encourage and inspire you to “keep pressing on.”  It’s easier to make excuses than it is to go after our goals in life.

Many times, your goals and dreams will require you to step outside of your comfort zone.  You will be required to put in some extra effort.

You will likely feel like it’s too difficult to make a positive change, develop a new habit, or go after your major goal.  Keep trying, keep moving forward, and keep making progress.  You will discover that, in the end, it will be well worth it.

As a quick review, we looked these four ideas to help you overcome indifference with your life and your goals:

  • discover a meaningful purpose with your life
  • develop a compelling or rewarding goal or two for your life
  • recognize that your life and health is a gift
  • recognize that life is not a “dress rehearsal”

These ideas and tips are encouraging and inspiring for me.  I hope they will be for you as well.  I easily forget the things I write about.  It’s easy to give advice and more difficult to apply new ideas.

My writing for this blog is the result of my life’s trial and error.  My hope is that you can use my errors for your success and well-being.

Let’s look at four more ideas that can help you overcome indifference.

Be Careful with Your Focus on Each Day

For too much of my own life, I have focused on problems, challenges, difficult circumstances, worries about past decisions, and anxiety about the future.

If you took an inventory of your own thought life throughout the day, what would it tell you about your own mental focus in life?

If you’re focused on the list of things I just mentioned, it’s easy to fall into the trap of depression or anxiety.

Here is a good analogy about the power of focus.

If you have ever lived through a Canadian winter, you are familiar with cold wind, snow, stormy weather, and icy roads.

It’s not a topic I’d like to write about, but I think this is a good analogy to the power of focus.

Driving instructors will tell you that if you happen to go into a skid on an icy road, you can actually stay on the road if you focus on where you want to go, instead of allowing your car to go out of control.

I think that tends to work the same way with our lives.  If we tend to get “caught up” with our problems and fears in life, we will either get depressed or anxious.

What would happen each day if you decided instead to focus on your strengths, your daily blessings, the possibilities in your life, along with your goals and dreams?

I could confidently say the quality of your life would improve beyond what you could ever imagine.

Be Careful with Your Self-Talk or Inner Dialogue

My track record with goal-setting isn’t outstanding.

I fall short of my goals and intentions on more occasions than I would care to remember.

It’s discouraging when we fall short of what we intend, wouldn’t you agree?

It’s easy to be the “armchair quarterback” and point out our flaws, along with the flaws and mistakes of others.

When you tell yourself “I can’t do anything right,” your mood and results in life will reflect this limiting and negative belief.

The temptation to give in to despair or give up and quit becomes powerful.

Take a day or two to apply this idea.  What type of words do you use on a daily basis?  Do you tell yourself negative things about yourself, the world around you and the people around you?  Do you ever tell yourself that you can never change, grow, or improve your life?

If you do, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I read a great quote this morning from Richard Bach:

Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours.

Allow your thoughts to work for you instead of against you.  This idea will help you overcome indifference and will improve the quality of your life.

Make a Positive Contribution to those around You

There are many in our world who struggle.  It’s good to help people overcome their challenges, problems, and obstacles.

I watched a good news story on TV about a local company that helped build a camp for kids with cancer.

This type of story should inspire us to help other people in need.  It’s a great feeling.  Find a cause that you believe in.  Volunteer a bit of time on a regular basis.  You will reap the rewards as you overcome any indifference you feel towards life and the world around you.

I once volunteered at a local homeless shelter.  It helped me realize how fortunate and blessed I truly am in my life.

Many times, helping others in need will help you count your blessings and develop the spirit of gratitude.

Support and Encourage Yourself as You Make Positive Changes in Your Life

Sometimes at work (and in other scenarios) you may encounter someone who treats you badly or with a lack of respect.

Then you run across another person who is respectful, helpful, and good to work with.

Unfortunately, there are people in the world who have their own agenda, care only about themselves, and don’t care if anyone else truly succeeds with their objectives, goals, or dreams in life.

There are those who think that your goals mean nothing and may not want you to succeed.

We all encounter people who tend to be negative and toxic.  Hurting people tend to hurt others.

We don’t always have the choice to stay away from them.

Get into the habit of not allowing them to influence you in any meaningful way.

Years ago, I read a great letter from an advice column called the “Five votes of Confidence.”  I wrote an article about it a few years back.

One of my favourite affirmations from the article is the “third vote”:

“I will not allow anyone to define my mood, my method, my image, or my mission.”

The way you think about yourself, your goals, and your dreams is ultimately your choice.

I read a great quote from Jim Rohn, who wrote:

Let others lead small lives, but not you.. Let others argue over small things, but not you.. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you.. Let others leave their futures in someone else’s hands, but not you.

My hope is that you will learn to become your own source of encouragement, inspiration, and motivation.  My goal with this blog is to inspire you to make the positive changes that you desire to make in your life, and to experience life more fully, and become all you were meant to be.

I wish you much success.

I like the quote in the image below from Arthur Balfour, which says “Enthusiasm moves the world.”

Until my next post, have a great day.

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Overcome Indifference and Make Positive Changes – Part 1

When I think of the word “indifference”, many ideas, words and phrases come to mind.

Here are a few other words that come to mind – unfocused, distracted, apathetic, passive, and disinterested.

It’s easy to drift in life and accept the status quo.  It’s even easier to buy into the belief that personal development and improvement is too difficult.

If you ever struggle with anxiety, depression, or stress, it’s tempting to think that “things will never change.  I can never change.”

Today’s post is part one of two.  I’d like to provide four ideas today that will encourage you to make positive changes in your own life.

If you choose to believe that you can develop positive habits, you are well on your way to making a positive difference in your life.

However, if you choose to believe that you can “never change,” it will act as a type of self-fulfilling prophecy.  When you choose to believe this myth, your life, unfortunately, will stay the same.

My hope is that you will make the better choice of the two I have just mentioned.

Discover a Meaningful Purpose for Your Life

If you feel like you are “drifting through life” and are feeling aimless, without direction, and bored, chances are that you haven’t developed or defined your major purpose in life.

A few years ago, I purchased an excellent book called “Success Principles.” It was written by Jack Canfield and Janet Switzer.  Their second principle (and chapter) is called “Be Clear Why You’re Here.”

I still have the receipt from this book- as it makes a good bookmark.  The date of purchase is still visible on the receipt.

When I bought this book, I was going through some big challenges in my life. It was (and is) encouraging for me to read and review.  It’s valuable, inspiring, and very informative.

With their second principle, I was able to come up with a purpose statement for this blog and online business:

My purpose is to use my creativity and love of learning in business and personal development areas of life to encourage and inspire others to reach their potential in living a life of purpose, joy, and freedom.

Are you clear about why you’re here?  You are here for a special and unique purpose.

Having a meaningful purpose will get you up in the morning.  It will keep you motivated and inspired.

I’d like to encourage you to find and discover your purpose.

Develop a Compelling or Rewarding Goal or Two for Your Life

It’s true that you would want some major goals for all areas of your life.

At this point, though, if you are lacking direction and feeling aimless, it’s not only valuable, but crucial to have one or two major goals.

What do you want to achieve in your life?

What would be your major or primary goal?  What would be your reward for achieving this goal?

I’d like to encourage you to write it down.  Here’s a great advice quote from Brian Tracy on the importance of writing down your goals:

Goals that are not in writing are merely wishes or fantasies.

Without a compelling or rewarding goal, what type of direction would you expect to have in your life?

You would likely have little direction or purpose in your life. In this scenario, it’s easy to give in to despair, boredom, and a lack of focus or meaning in life.

Years ago, I wish I had written down my major goals.  Today I know that I would have been much further ahead in many areas in my life if I had.

We all learn from experience.  My hope is that you will take action on this valuable piece of advice from Brian Tracy.

Recognize that Your Life and Your Health is a Gift

I have begun to recognize many things through trial and error.

One of the blessings I have taken for granted is life itself – and my physical health.

Have you ever taken your health and life itself for granted?

If you have, take a few moments each day to think about your daily blessings.

Yesterday, I ran across a gratitude list I had written.  I was glad that I reviewed it because it was a great reminder to me that I do have things in my life that I can be thankful for.

You have likely had your own share of joys and sorrows in life.  Despite your current challenges or problems, I’m sure that you also have something to be grateful for.

As time goes on, I recognize that I can’t afford to be indifferent about things like my life, the goals I’ve set, and my overall mental and physical well-being.

I’ve had a few health problems in my own life (which of course, are no unique to me).  During a hospital stay a few years ago, I thought about how much I was taking my health for granted.  It was a type of wake-up call for me.

Take a few moments to think about your own health and well-being.  Do you take it for granted, or are you thankful for your daily blessings in life?

As you develop the habit of gratitude, you can also overcome much of the indifference you may feel about your life and goals.  It’s a habit I’m attempting to develop, and I can tell you that it works.

Recognize that Life is not a “Dress Rehearsal”

Many of us wait around for the “right time” to begin to make positive changes in our lives.

You may have told yourself these types of statements:

“It doesn’t matter.”

“I can pursue this goal another time.”

Unfortunately, we leave important goals, dreams, projects, and plans until “another time.”  It’s easy to get sidetracked, unfocused, and indifferent in life.

I’m starting to recognize that life quickly passes by, whether we want it to or not.  When we are children, we can’t wait until Christmas.  Five minutes can seem like an eternity.

After we become adults, time seems to move by more quickly.

A day can go by quickly.  Many times, two or three days can go by.  Then a week goes by and suddenly, most of the year has gone by.

If you become indifferent to your goals, and to any possibility of personal change or growth, time will keep moving on.

It’s not fun to try to make up time for missed opportunities.  Get started today with your major goal or dream.

We can never turn back the clock.  Take a step today, set a goal or two, and take some action on it.  As you make a bit of progress, you will be encouraged to keep pressing on.

I’d like to encourage you to make each day count.  All the best to you as you make positive changes and as you pursue your goals and dreams.

I like the quote in the image below from Steve Maraboli, which says: “Although time seems to fly by, it never travels faster than one day at a time.  Each day is a new opportunity to live your life to the fullest.  In each waking day, you will find scores of blessings and opportunities for positive change.  Do not let your TODAY be stolen by the unchangeable past or indefinite future!  Today is a new day!”

I found this quote on a website called verybestquotes.com.  It has some excellent and inspiring quotes that are very inspiring.

Until my next post, have a great day.

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Exercise Your Power of Choice as You Overcome Negativity

It’s not an easy process to change your general attitude and mindset.

For me, it’s easier and more natural to be more of a pessimist than it is to be an optimist.

I think it’s because many of us are conditioned to focus on our problems, obstacles and challenges in life.  As we go through grade school, we tend to hear others tell us that “You can’t do this” and “You’re not good enough. You’re not smart enough.” and “You don’t fit in.”

In today’s post, I’d like to provide you with some ideas to help you with three types of choices in life: time choices, thought choices, and attitude choices.

In my research for this post, I discovered that many websites use these terms.

Through my own trial and error in the past, these ideas are helping me as I put them into practice.  My hope is that these ideas will be valuable for you as well.

Time Choices

How do you generally spend your time?  Do you tend to value the time you have?

Have you developed a purpose for your life?

When I started on my own path to personal development, it was one of the best decisions of my life.

I faced a couple of major health challenges two years ago.

During those two visits to the hospital, I began to realize how much I took my health for granted.

I thought about all the time I spent fretting over minor things.  It was a real “eye-opener” for me.

If you have your health, count one blessing.  If you have the mobility and physical health to pursue your goals, count another blessing.  There are many people who have neither blessing and would change places with you.

When you decide to invest time in your purpose, goals, and dreams for a better life, it is a wise investment in yourself.

Many people have no idea what this purpose might be.

I would like to encourage you to consider the time you have as a valuable resource.  If you invest your time wisely, you can:

  • discover your purpose
  • reach out for the help, support, and encouragement you need,
  • help and encourage others who are struggling
  • pursue your goals
  • achieve your dreams
  • enjoy your life and make each moment count

Looking back at my past, I wish I had invested more of my time (with the above list) and less time battling with thoughts of fear, discouragement, anxiety, and depression.

Thought Choices

If you struggle with anxiety or depression, I can safely bet that you have a lot of inner battle and turmoil in your life.  I have experienced this battle too many days to count.

Your major problem might be your daily battle with panic or anxiety.  Negative thoughts about the future may frequently occur to you.

If you struggle with depression, you also think negatively.  Your thoughts directly affect your overall mood, feelings, and actions.

I have often thought back to past grievances I’ve had with others.  I’ve spent a lot of time in the “land of regret” over past decisions I’ve made.

Here are a few “what-if” questions that are valuable:

  • What if you decided to take control over what you choose to think about on a daily basis?
  • What if you started to think about possible solutions (instead of your seemingly “unsolvable” problems with anxiety or depression)?
  • What if you decided to make a decision today that these emotions won’t defeat you or keep you down? 

It could safely bet that if you made these three decisions, the quality of your life would improve tremendously.

Attitude Choices

Years ago, I read a book that defined attitude as our “orientation towards life.”

What would be your predominant orientation toward life?

Brian Tracy wrote an excellent book called “Maximum Achievement”.  In his book, Tracy talks about two predominant attitudes or “ways of looking at the world.

He defines the optimistic view as a “benevolent world view” and the pessimistic view as the “malevolent world view.”

It really made me think about the way I view life and the world around me.

If we begin to view the world, ourselves, and others in a positive light, we will tend to pursue our dreams, believe in ourselves and others, and enjoy our lives.

Alternatively, if we choose to see the world in a negative light, and see it as “dangerous”, “uncaring”, or “hostile”, we will tend to shrink back in life, stay within our comfort zone, and settle for the status quo.

You may have had some tough times.  You may be going through a painful and challenging time as you read this.  How will you respond to your difficulties?  How will you view life?

Will you allow your negative circumstances to discourage you?  If you do, you are allowing your past to determine your future.

My hope is that you will choose an optimistic attitude towards life, towards others, and of course, towards yourself and your potential.  That way, you can move forward from your past difficulties and build the future that you dream of.

Today I read a great quote from Les Brown’s book called “Live Your Dreams.”  Brown has the following quote from Dr. Benjamin Isaiah Mays:

It must be borne in mind that the tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your goals, the tragedy lies in not having any goals to reach. It isn’t a calamity to die with dreams unfulfilled, but it is a calamity not to dream. It is not a disaster to be unable to capture your ideals, but it is a disaster to have no ideals to capture. It is not a disgrace not to reach the stars, but it is a disgrace to have no stars to reach.

Hopefully, today’s post has challenged you to “rise above” the challenges and difficulties you may be experiencing today.

I like the quote in the image below from Charles “Tremendous” Jones, which says “Things don’t go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up.  They happen to break you down and build you up so you can become all that you were intended to be.”

Until my next post, have a great day.

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Experience Personal Growth as You Overcome Anxiety

When we stop learning and experiencing personal growth, many of us end up settling for the status quo.

Life then becomes filled with duty and routine.  We lose our enthusiasm and end up “going through the motions.”

One of my biggest mistakes has been pride.  It’s easy to believe that we have all the answers, and then close our minds to new learning.

In today’s post, I’d like to help you with three exceptional benefits of the personal growth habit.  These ideas will help you overcome anxiety and fear.

My hope is that these ideas will inspire you to make daily learning and growth a major priority in your life.

I believe that the quality of your life depends on this critical choice.  This post also contains advice that I need to follow.

The Habit of Personal Growth Will Help You Become the Person You Desire to Be

It’s sometimes tough to find the time to look after ourselves- whether it would be mentally, physically through an exercise routine, or by completing a course that would help us professionally.

Consider the topic of anxiety.  If you were to invest in learning about this topic, and daily applying what you learn, imagine how the quality of your life would improve.  

What type of person do you see yourself as: weak or strong, inferior or valuable and worthwhile?

I read a helpful quote from William James, a prominent psychologist:

There is a law in psychology that if you form a picture in your mind of what you would like to be, and you keep and hold that picture there long enough, you will soon become exactly as you have been thinking.

If you’re like me, you may be tempted to think “That would be too much work. Would it even be worth the effort?”

Remember that the investment in your well-being is well worth the effort.  The payoff is tremendous.

The important benefit is the type of person you become.

You can develop the Valuable Habit of Maintaining and Improving Your Mental Well-Being

Psychological studies indicate that it takes three weeks to develop a new habit.  Wouldn’t it be great to have this new positive habit?  Wouldn’t it be worth a bit of extra time and effort each day?

That’s why I encourage you to take action on your own personal growth and development.  You can’t develop this new habit without some effort, practice, persistence, and time management.

Looking back on the past, I wish I had applied more of what I learned.  I’m grateful, though, for the things I did apply to my life.

These days, I have a few routines that help me with my own personal development.  The benefits are phenomenal.  I use a few affirmations to encourage and inspire me, and do a bit of daily reading to help me learn and grow both personally and professionally.

We can’t maintain and improve our mental well-being by osmosis.  Unfortunately, our mental and emotional wellness doesn’t occur naturally.

I hope that encourages you to get going on this vital part of life.  It will make a difference.

As I write this post, I recognize that I need this reminder as well.

The Habit of Personal Growth Will Help You Overcome Your Greatest Battles and Challenges

For instance, I once heard a speaker talk about the way many of us graduate from high school or college, and then close the books on learning.

Many people tend to settle in and do just enough to get by.  I recognize this group because I spent a good portion of my own life in it.

It’s easy to do what is comfortable, convenient, and easy.

Brian Tracy is a great author and teacher on personal development.  Here is one of the quotes that I like:

The tendency to follow the path of least resistance guarantees failure in life.

If you fail to take action on your own development and well-being, your life will remain the same.

However, if you decide today that you won’t settle, and then begin to make a plan for improvement, and then take action on your plan, your life can improve beyond your wildest dreams.

For instance, you may struggle with fear and anxiety. Why not take action and learn about the ways you can overcome this condition and then achieve greater peace of mind in your life?  Why continue to struggle?

One mistake I made was learning new information just for the sake of becoming more knowledgeable about it.  Then, I would fail to apply what I learned, and never really change.

Applied knowledge is most powerful.

Suppose you learn about one powerful idea that can change your life.  What if you took this one idea, and then applied it for three weeks?

Applying this one insight or habit would help you change your life for the better.  Wouldn’t it be worthwhile to take the time to apply it?

In the past, I often got lazy, and allowed myself to drift and do enough to “just get by.”

I’d like to encourage you to make personal growth a new habit in your life.  Even 15 or 30 minutes a day makes a great difference.

I would encourage you to step outside of your comfort zone and learn all you can and make progress with your goals and dreams in life.

All the best to you in your own journey through life.

My hope is that this blog will give you the encouragement, motivation, and inspiration to elevate your thoughts and the quality of your life.

I like the quote in the image below from Soren Kierkegaard, which says “Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts.”

Until my next post, have a great day.

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Improve Your Life as You Forgive Yourself For The Past

Do you often struggle with the decisions you have made in the past?

If so, thinking or “re-visiting” these choices can drain your energy and make you struggle with feelings of regret.

In today’s post, I’d like to provide you with four benefits you will experience as you learn from your past choices and then forgive yourself for them.

You will Experience Greater Energy and Enthusiasm for Your Life

I’m not sure if there is anything that is more draining than regret over the past.

If we’re not careful, these feelings can really hinder us in life if we allow them to.

For instance, have you ever talked yourself out of taking the first step for a new goal or dream?  You might have punished yourself for your past by saying, “I’ve failed before, what makes me think I could ever be successful in life?”

If you have ever told yourself this type of statement, you have equated your past mistakes with your future potential.

When you begin to equate your past mistakes with your worth or value as a person, you will naturally feel regretful and depressed.

However, when you look at your past mistakes more objectively, you will discover that:

  • your failures in life can make you wiser, if you look for and apply the valuable lesson.
  • your worth as a person is not determined by your past failures or mistakes.

I am beginning to come to terms with my past mistakes.  Looking at them more objectively, I have learned a few valuable lessons.

For instance, with any business investment, I am using all the tools and resources I have to get the best information possible, and then make a wise choice.

Make it a habit to do your homework.  Doing your own research and “due diligence” before any major decision is valuable.  Don’t be pressured into any major purchasing decision.  Time and money are valuable commodities.

Forgive yourself for your past mistakes.  Begin to accept yourself unconditionally.  That way, you can move forward with greater strength and courage.

Whenever you start thinking about your past mistakes, keep reminding yourself that “I forgive myself for my past, and I am moving forward to a better and brighter future.”

Your Overall Mood Will Improve

Our thoughts do have a direct impact on our feelings and moods.

Research by psychologists and neuroscientists has concluded that every person has an ongoing dialogue of self-talk between 150 and 300 words per minute.  This works out to be between 45,000 and 51,000 thoughts a day.  It is estimated that for most people, 80 percent of these thoughts are negative.

I was surprised by these numbers, as well as the link between our thoughts and emotions.

If we dwell on negative events and circumstances, we will naturally feel deflated, discouraged, and defeated.

If we decide to think about the good things in our lives (such as our present blessings) instead, we will likely feel grateful.

As Brian Tracy says in his book called “Great Little Book on Personal Achievement”,

Thoughts are causes and conditions are effects.  You are creating your current life with your present thinking.

Our thoughts often determine the quality of our lives.

With your thoughts, you can either beat yourself up over the past, or forgive yourself for it, and use your thinking to work for you instead of against you.

The choice is ultimately yours.  I hope that you will choose wisely.

You Will Be Able to Make Better Progress with Your Life’s Goals

Our regrets from the past tend to fill us with doubts about ourselves, others, and the future in general,

It’s difficult (if not impossible) to make much progress if your life is filled with self-doubt.

I’ve spent too much time in my own life in “the land of past regrets.”

As I’m learning to forgive myself for my past mistakes, I am beginning to make better progress with my goals.

It hasn’t been an easy process, but it is well worth the effort.

Think about your biggest goal or dream in life.  If you begin to bring up all the reasons why you can’t succeed, make a list of why you can succeed.

Even as I am writing this blog post, I still have a battle with self-doubt: “What if I can’t come up with ideas as I write?  What if I draw a blank as I share my ideas and end up staring at a blank screen?”

Each day that I live, I am beginning to recognize the value of time.

It seems that each day and each week goes by quickly.  Before we know it, another month has passed by.   Time doesn’t slow down and wait for us to start working on our goals tomorrow or at another more convenient time.

Les Brown has an excellent book called “It’s Not Over Until You Win!”  In this book, Brown talks about the importance of living with a sense of urgency, and how time keeps passing by whether we like it or not.

Many people use the phrase “One day I’m going to…”  When they wait until the time is “just right”, many end up waiting around for a long time, and sadly, never begin to work on their major goal or dream in life.

For me, dwelling on my regrets is like adding unnecessary weight to a backpack, and then beginning a journey on a difficult hike.

Life is not easy.  Once you make a conscious choice to forgive yourself for the past, and then not focus on any regrets, you are free to start making the most of the life you have.

How much life does each of us have left?  We don’t know.  There are no guarantees.  Why not make the most of your life by pursuing your most rewarding goals, and use your thoughts to work for you rather than against you?  I mentioned it earlier in this post, but it’s worth mentioning again.  This is a wise choice that you will never regret.

All my best to you as you pursue your goals and dreams in life.

I like the quote in the image below from Lewis Carroll, which says “I can’t go back to yesterday – because I was a different person then.”

Until my next post, have a great day.

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