Category Archives: Life Changes

Face Your Aversion To Change As You Overcome Anxiety

The concept of “change” can be a rather overwhelming undertaking.

This morning, I looked up the word “aversion” in Webster’s English Dictionary.

The first word they used to define it was “antipathy.”

At that point, I wondered what “antipathy” meant.  I had an idea, but no clear definition.

They defined “antipathy” as a fixed dislike.

In too many instances in life, it’s way easier to hold onto old anxieties, fears, and insecurities.  Why?  I think it’s likely because these feelings become familiar and part of everyday life.

Letting of and overcoming these negative emotions takes time, effort, and a healthy measure of courage and strength.

In today’s post, I have three ideas about personal change.  My hope is that these ideas will be a source of encouragement for you.

Recognize that a Positive Attitude Towards Change will Help You (and not Hinder You)

If you’re beginning a journey of personal transformation, the concept of change can be rather scary proposition.

When we make personal changes – and start to become less anxious about life, it requires us to take an adventure into the “unknown.”

I’d like to encourage you to develop a healthy perspective or attitude towards personal change.  I would agree that it’s easier to settle for the status quo in life, but why settle?

That’s the exciting part about having goals, plans, and dreams for the future.  They inspire us, and motivate us to take action, and to learn, grow, and develop each day.

If you want to learn how to overcome anxiety, why not take action and learn all that you can – and then put into practice the valuable things you learn?  You don’t need to be the same person you were yesterday.  Each day is a great opportunity for personal growth.

Once you have a positive attitude towards change, you will be more likely to tell yourself “This change in my life will help me.”  

With this healthy perspective towards change, you will make much better progress in your goal of personal improvement.  I have tried it, and it seems to really work!

I like a quote I read this morning from Gail Sheehy”

If we don’t change, we don’t grow.  If we don’t grow, we are not really living.

This quote encourages me to embrace change in my own life- as I take action on my own personal development.  I’m grateful that I found this quote, as I recognize this need in my own life.

Recognize That Change Involves Stepping Outside Of Your Comfort Zone

Years ago, when I began my personal development library of books and audios, I started to face new things about myself.

I had attitudes, fears, and hang-ups in life that were holding me back.  It was uncomfortable for me to face new realities about myself.

A few years later, it was even more uncomfortable for me to attend a personal development seminar, where I met many people on the same type of journey through life that I was.

I’m grateful for these people and this experience, though.  I was able to keep in touch with a few of them after the seminar.

Going back to the Gail Sheehy quote, when I think about the term “growth”, it really does involve stepping outside of the personal “comfort zone.”

Growth involves facing our fears, taking action - knowing that we’ll survive things like disappointment, failure, disapproval, and rejection.  These experiences help us learn about the power of perseverance, courage, and of the will to succeed.

Realize that Making Changes in Life Can Be Rewarding

I like a comfort zone image I found on photobucket.com – a free photo sharing site.  I saved a copy of it on this website.  You can access it here:

http://topliferesults.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/comfort-20zone-small1.jpg

I would encourage you to print out this image.  It will remind you to begin to take action when you don’t want to take action in life, and when you’re tempted to maintain the “status quo”.

When you print out the image, you will see 9 descriptive words, feelings and phrases that you may often experience when you accept your perceived limitations and remain within your comfort zone:

  • 90% of the population
  • Mediocre Life
  • Just Survival
  • Fear
  • Tired
  • Depression
  • Settling
  • Average
  • What If I Can’t

In addition, you will notice that the Comfort Zone image has 12 descriptive words and phrases for life outside the comfort zone:

  • Fearless
  • Excitement
  • Success
  • Financial Freedom
  • Wealth
  • Dreams
  • Belief
  • Confidence
  • Passion
  • What if I CAN
  • Fulfillment
  • The Sky is the Limit

Here’s an example of a couple of brief activities that make a big difference in my own life.  As I review a few of my favourite time management affirmations, I feel inspired to take action and manage my time well.  As I review a few of my self-confidence affirmations, I experience a greater sense of self-acceptance – that even if I don’t quite accomplish all the things I planned for the morning, I will still approve of myself unconditionally.

If these documents and files remain on my computer – and I don’t bother reviewing them, then I have missed out on a great source of courage and inspiration.

It’s not enough to just read about some good ideas.  Application makes all the difference.

Once you embrace change (as you step outside of your comfort zone), your life can be characterized by the second list of 12 descriptive words (rather than the first list of 9 words).

Which list fits you better?  I hope your answer will be the second list.  If so, I’d encourage you to take action on your goals and dreams today.  Don’t allow anxiety to hinder your life.  Access help and support, implement new ideas in your life, and then you will be astounded by the progress you can make.

All the best to you as you take today’s opportunity to learn, grow, and experience a greater quality of life.

In summary, here are my three ideas about personal change:

  • A positive attitude towards change will help you (and will not hinder you).
  • Making a meaningful change means stepping outside of your comfort zone.
  • Making changes in life can be difficult but ultimately rewarding.

I like the quote from Arnold H. Glasgow in the image below, which says “Nothing lasts forever – not even your troubles.”

May you be inspired to make the most of your day with this post.  Until my next post, have a great day.

Troubles Face Your Aversion To Change As You Overcome Anxiety

Achieving Success and Joy through Greater Awareness

A lack of awareness holds us back in life.

I had been unaware in so many areas of my life. As a result, I became unfocused, bored, and aimless. It’s very natural to drift.

It’s easy to “sleepwalk” through life, carrying on with the everyday, usual routine.

Do you ever find yourself daydreaming of living life in a different way? What do you truly want in life? This is a key question for you to explore and become more aware of. Do you have goals that you would love to achieve, and are you making plans to achieve them?

A life transition gives us the opportunity to re-examine and become more aware in our most important areas of life.

A life transition or life change can make you more aware about what you truly want in life, along with your values. We could also include a greater awareness of our goals and how to achieve them.

For example, as I learn about becoming a successful business owner, I’m learning more and more about setting goals and becoming focused. I have become aware that if I don’t set goals (and create deadlines for myself), I won’t keep myself accountable. Creating a new business has taught me a great deal about the person I need to become.

A life transition can also make us more aware about the things we value. If we’re going through a health crisis, we’ll find that we value things like getting proper rest and nutrition, and keeping fit mentally and spiritually. For me, I’m unaware of the value of good health until I’m struck with a bad illness.

Sometimes it takes difficult experiences for us to realize and recognize what’s most important to us, and the things that we truly value.

In my next set of blog posts, I’ll provide valuable ideas on increasing your personal productivity.

Exceptional Personal Development through Life Transitions

Today I’d like to encourage you in your current (or future) life change or transition.

One great by-product or result of any life transition is the opportunity for personal growth and development in life. You can develop personal characteristics you’ve always desired to have – as you go through any life change or transition.

One characteristic you can further develop is courage. For example, I’m both a student and a new business owner. Creating this blog and learning about how to develop a home-based business is a stretch outside of my comfort zone. There’s a lot to learn, and it’s a bit intimidating to try something new with no guarantee of success.

I’ve had to learn to be more proactive, goal-oriented and focused in my life. I have also developed more purpose and learned to be more grateful in life. It’s tough to develop these new characteristics, but in the long run, I’ll be better off in many areas of my life.

In the same way, as you develop your characteristics of courage, being more assertive or proactive, goal-oriented and focused in life, you’ll meet new transitions and obstacles in life more successfully.

You’ll then be less fearful in future life changes or transitions, as you’ve been through changes before. You’ll then remember that you’ve demonstrated and developed new strength and courage before.

If you’re going back to school or starting a new career or job, the above characteristics will help you immensely in the future.

I’d like to encourage to reflect upon the characteristics you can develop through your current transition. As you focus on the characteristics you can develop, you’ll be more encouraged and less fearful and apprehensive of new changes in your life.

My next post will be about areas of greater awareness you can gain in a life change or transition.

Gaining a Wider Perspective in a Life Transition

Sometimes it’s hard to see the purpose behind difficult life transitions, but if we look closely enough, we can move forward successfully.

For me, moving forward successfully has meant finding greater purpose in my difficulties. As I’ve reflected upon the things I’ve learned through difficult and painful experiences, I’ve found greater meaning and purpose.

A wider perspective in life helps us in three main areas.

A wider or “greater perspective” toward our own potential helps us make greater progress. To me, having a wider or “greater” perspective of my own potential has been a major source of encouragement to me.

Recently, I listed my top 15 accomplishments. I created this list as suggested by my mentor. It’s been encouraging for me as I read and reflect upon this list. As well, it reminds me that I’m capable of achieving the goals I set for myself.

A second area in which a wider perspective will help us is in our trials and difficulties. For me, I had periods where my mood and outlook upon life looked very bleak. I have realized the value of finding a major purpose in life, of taking care of myself in all my life areas, and in finding balance.

A wider perspective helps us is in our world view. Helping the less fortunate in our own society and in the world around us widens our world view and perspective.

We hear and read stories of people who travel to less fortunate countries, and help people out in these areas. They experience the satisfaction of making a difference, along with a greater appreciation for the good things they take for granted at home.

I encourage you to gain a wider or “greater” perspective upon your life and the world around you.

My next post will be about powerful characteristics you can develop in your life transition.

Gaining Valuable Experiences in Life Transitions

Here are some additional ideas- that will help you in your current (or future) life change or life transition.

With the following examples, I hope you’ll come up with new ideas about the experiences that you’re gaining. Hopefully, this will encourage and inspire you with any new challenges that you’re facing.

You may be moving to a new city, a new country or going to a new school. You can gain valuable experiences as you venture into the unknown.

For example, I have friends who have gone overseas to teach English. They had valuable experiences in traveling and in learning about new cultures. They also acquired a new sense of adventure. In addition, they’ve experienced new wonder and appreciation of the world.

You might be a new manager in your workplace or you may be participating in a new volunteer project. Consider the great leadership skills you can acquire, as you lead, guide, motivate and inspire others towards new achievements.

I gained valuable experience in going back to school and in becoming a Faculty Assistant. It helped me acquire new skills in communicating and teaching course material to other students. Helping struggling students achieve success and higher grades was rewarding for me.

As a new business owner, I consider it a great opportunity- to learn, to develop new skills and achieve success by helping others. I enjoy discovering and developing new skills in web development, marketing and writing.

My goal is to encourage, inspire and motivate others toward greater success through my products and writing.

As you consider the value of each experience you have (whether it’s good or bad), you’ll be encouraged, motivated and inspired through your life transition.

In my next post, you’ll have new ideas and encouragement in your current or next life transition – and its ability to give you a wider perspective in life.