Three Valuable Tips We Can Use To Overcome Depression

Many of us will battle with depression at some point in our lives.

With today’s blog post, I’d like to provide you with three tips or ideas that have been valuable to me.

These ideas, tips, and strategies are ones I’ve learned through a great deal of trial and error in my own life, and I hope that you will find them helpful.

It’s easy to offer simple advice. I don’t think there is a sure-fire cure for the challenges, difficulties, or problems we face.

My goal with this post is to give you a good starting point to face any issues you have with depression.

When You Feel Depressed, Don’t Automatically Believe that “Nothing Will Help”

As I wrote this title, I recognize that I need this advice as much as anyone else.

When we feel a sense of despair in life, it’s easy to give in to the thought that “nothing will work” and then conclude that a new idea isn’t worth the effort.

In reality, this negative belief has no basis for truth.

Many people have overcome depression.  There are many successful people who have beaten the odds and have risen from different types of challenges, heartaches, and trials in life.

I’d like to encourage you to hold onto the belief that you can find the help you need, and that quality of your life can improve.

Step outside of your comfort zone.  Learn what you can.  Take action on the ideas you learn.  Life can get better.

It all depends upon the ideas and beliefs you think about.

In the past several years, I’ve gathered a good library of books on anxiety, depression, success, personal development, and on the topics of adversity and resilience.

In too many instances, I’ve read partway through many of them. I’m beginning to change that, though. I’m starting to finish two of the ones I started.

I’m beginning to see some positive changes in my own life.  My attitude towards life has improved.  It’s been a slow improvement in some areas.  I am a “work-in-progress.”  I’m discovering new things and ideas that are helping me.

Most of all, I’ve discovered that there are many things I still need to learn.  It’s part of life.

Please don’t give in to the despair of thinking that “this idea won’t help.”  Use each day as a learning experience.  Your life will be better with this wise decision.  It’s a choice I wish I’d made years ago.

Don’t Allow Your Circumstances to Determine Your Emotional Well-Being

This is a tough piece of advice to follow. I wish I could give you an easy a-b-c type of solution to remember and follow this advice.

In the past, I was too easily thrown “off course” emotionally by the attitudes, ideas, or opinions of others, the circumstances or challenges I was facing, and my own limiting beliefs about life and the world around me.

Many of us who battle depression allow our circumstances to determine our level of well-being in life. I don’t believe that life is meant to be lived on an emotional roller coaster.  When our circumstances are positive, we feel happy and content.  And many other times, when we face challenges and difficulties, we often feel unhappy.

Life isn’t easy. Yet many times we expect it to be easier than it is.

I’d like to encourage you to address and rise above the problems and challenges you face in life.

It could be that these difficulties are meant to help you grow and become the person you are meant to be.  Don’t give up.

Address any Issues You Have With Negative Thinking

When we battle with depression, our thinking is negative.

Years ago, I hadn’t given much thought to what I would actually think about.   If anyone told me back then that my thoughts affected the quality of my life, I would likely have responded by telling them that they were being too simplistic.

Many prominent researchers, psychologists, and authors tell us that our thought lives truly impact our emotions and behaviours.

About a year ago, I downloaded a very helpful resource called “Unhelpful Thinking Habits”.

You can view this resource site with the link below.  It will open in a new window from this post.  Here is the site address:

Anytime I view this document, I recognize a few of these thinking habits in my own life.

These habits can be detrimental to our mental and emotional well-being.

If you struggle with these types of thinking styles, begin to challenge these types of thoughts in your own life, and see the situations you face in a more realistic way.

Awareness of these thinking traps is a vital step in any battle with depression or discouragement.

Take a few moments each day to take note of the limiting thoughts and ideas you have.  Compare them with the document.  I’m sure that you will discover that your thought will fit one of the twelve categories.

As you begin to think in a more realistic way, your life can improve.

I like the quote from Sigmund Freud in the image below, which says “Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.”

Until my next post, have a great day.

facing the truth Three Valuable Tips We Can Use To Overcome Depression

Practice Self-Acceptance as You Overcome Depression

Learning to truly accept ourselves helps us improve the quality of our lives.

When I look back at any battle that I had with depression, one of my first questions was “What is wrong with me?”

It was easy to start questioning my worth and value as a person.

Sometimes we’ll look for validation from what we do, or from other people’s approval or treatment of us.

When we accept ourselves unconditionally, we can begin the process of positive life change.

In today’s blog post, I’d like to encourage you four benefits you can experience when you start to accept yourself unconditionally.

Always remember that your life, dreams, and goals are valuable and worthwhile.

You will Realize that You Have Strengths that You Can Be Proud Of

Take a few moments to list down some of your personal strengths, positive characteristics, skills, and accomplishments that you are proud of.

I have a document on my computer called “Top 15 Achievements.” It was one that I created a few years ago, at the advice of a personal life coach.

This morning, before I began to write this blog post, I thought about all the things in my past that I failed to do, things that I regretted saying or doing, and whether I would be adequate to handle many of my responsibilities.

I’m glad that I created this document. It’s a great reminder to me that I do have strengths, positive characteristics, and accomplishments that I can be proud of.

I encourage you to create this type of document for yourself, and then to refer to it often.  When we battle with depression, I think we often tend to forget that we even have positive attributes and accomplishments that we can be thankful for.

You Can Acknowledge Your Weaknesses and Do Something About Them

As I had mentioned in previous post, I think it was Dr. Phil McGraw who said “We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.”

If you struggle with depression, low self-esteem, discouragement, or any other emotional battle, you may not want to face it or acknowledge it.

If you know anyone close to you who struggles with any type of emotional challenge, you can clearly see how their lives are turning out when they don’t acknowledge any issues they have.

They may turn to some of addiction, whether it would be alcohol or drugs to medicate or forget about the life issues they face.

To move forward in life, many of us need to accept that we have weaknesses, flaws, and emotional struggles that we need to face.

When we truly accept ourselves, admit to our challenges or weaknesses, and then get some type of help and take action, positive life change can occur.

As much as I can hopefully teach or inspire you with this blog, I recognize that I also have much to learn in this area.  I’m learning to practice self-acceptance in my own life, build upon my personal strengths, and work on my weaknesses and emotional challenges.

My hope is that I’m encouraging you to do the same.  That way, you’ll be able to experience a higher quality of life.

You will Become More Resilient When You Fall Short of Your Expectations

I have lived life as a bit of a perfectionist.  I’ve always wanted “all the answers” before I would proceed with a new goal.

Any time I would “fail” or fall short of my expectations, I would tend to beat myself up over “not being good enough.”

Have you ever done the same type of thing?

I’m sure that you can relate to this.  Anytime we don’t meet or exceed the overly inflated expectations we have of ourselves, we may tend to tell ourselves: “Why can’t I do this?  What’s wrong with me?   This isn’t working out.  Why bother trying?”

When we feel depressed, we tend to focus on the wrong things.

Instead of telling yourself “I’m no good at this.  Who am I to think I can do this?”, take a deep breath, realize that you are a perfectly valuable and worthwhile person no matter what, and give it another try.

I like a quote I once read – “Try and fail, but do not fail to try.”

When you fall short of your own expectations, accept that things in life aren’t perfect, learn from the experience, and use what you have learned as a motivational tool to try again.  Building a better life for yourself takes learning, personal effort, and a few setbacks along the way.

When you truly accept yourself, you’ll begin to bounce back from the inevitable setbacks and delays you encounter.

You will be Able to Accept Others as They Are

As we begin to accept and love ourselves as we are, we can accept and love others better.

I believe that self-acceptance is the starting point for accepting others as they are.

For instance, if you don’t accept yourself as you are (with your strengths and weaknesses), how will you ever accept others as they are.

I think it’s difficult for us to like, love, and respect others if we struggle with our own sense of self-acceptance and self-respect.

We all have strengths, positive characteristics, accomplishments, and skills, along with weaknesses, flaws, and personal challenges.

You have no control over other’s ideas, opinions, actions, or beliefs.  All you can do is work on yourself and become the best person you can be.

My hope is that this blog post has encouraged you to accept and approve of yourself.

I like the quote in the image below from B.C. Forbes, which says “Real riches are the riches possessed inside.”

Until my next post, have a great day.

real riches Practice Self Acceptance as You Overcome Depression

Gain Insight as You Journal About Your Daily Struggles

We all encounter challenges of various kinds.  How do we handle these daily struggles?

Recently, I have started to do some short journal entries to help me gain a greater sense of self-awareness.

If you feel depressed or anxious on a regular basis, are you aware of the issues, ideas, or events you are struggling with?

If you don’t have a good answer to the last question, my hope is that today’s blog post will encourage you to begin to journal about the issues you are facing in life.

Let’s think about four exceptional benefits of keeping a daily journal.

With Your Journal, You can Discover Why You Feel the Way You Do

For me, journaling is beginning to become a valuable habit for me.  It’s been a journey towards greater self-discovery in my life.

My lack of self-awareness felt like a vague sense that something was wrong, but I wasn’t sure what it was.

If you are completely unaware of your negative thoughts or moods – and the issues that trigger them, how will you ever begin to address your issues with depression or anxiety?

You Will Uncover Many of Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

In today’s journal entry, I took a few minutes to write about my thoughts about how inadequate I feel in doing this blog, and in following my online training.

I wrote about my negative thoughts and limiting beliefs, and I wrote some ideas and thoughts to counteract and question these ideas.

I feel inspired again to give myself a chance.  In the journal entry, I noted that “I’m no good in setting up a blog or online business.”  I reminded myself that in believing this statement, I’m not giving myself a chance.

Even as I write this blog, I hope that I’m including some good ideas.  These tips are ones that are helping me, and my hope is that I’ll be helping others (like yourself) who face issues, pain, and challenges in life.

I’m beginning to let go of the concept of perfectionism, and am beginning to give myself credit for giving this blog and website a try.

Once your self-limiting beliefs are on paper, you can question them, address them, get some help or perspective with them, and make better progress in your life.

With Your Journal, You can Gain a Greater Awareness of Your Purpose 

In the past, I have journaled about the things that are most important to me, and why I have different kinds of goals for my life.

I believe that we all have a dream or a vision for our lives.  Many times, it’s not even on paper.

For many years, I have kept my goals and dreams for the future in my head.

When I started a journal, the goals for my life became clearer.  I became aware of the reasons why I wanted to achieve them for my life.

Take a few moments each day to think about you why you want to achieve your dreams in life.  It will spur you on to keep working on your goals.

With my own list of goals, I came up with a purpose statement for this blog and online business.  I wrote it down on an index card and need to review it often:

“My purpose is to use my creativity and love of learning in business and personal development areas of life to encourage and inspire others to reach their potential in living a life of purpose, joy and freedom.”

I have included my purpose statement on previous blog posts.  In the past few weeks and months, I wish I had reviewed it more often.  It would have kept me on track with my goals and dreams.

My hope is that this statement encourages you to take some time and reflect upon what is most important to you – and to create an inspiring purpose statement that will give you greater meaning and encouragement for any challenge you face.

Your Journal can Help You Discover the Things for Which are Thankful For

One of my most inspiring documents is one I called “Remembrances List.”

I’m inspired when I review this list.  This document is a part of my journal.

If you struggle with depression, you likely think about past events that are negative, painful, or regretful.

I’d like to encourage you to think back to a few events of your past that you are grateful for.  Did you receive unexpected help from someone?  Are there major challenges you overcame (which you didn’t think you could survive)?  Did you have a major job or financial challenge that you worried about?  If you were able to make it through these types of challenges, make a list.

When I “re-visit” this list, I feel grateful that I was able to make it through my previous challenges.  It inspires me with gratitude for things that happened in the past.

Are there things for which you can be grateful for from today?  Mark them down.

We all need the encouragement and inspiration to keep going.

If we’re not careful, our moods can be affected by our current challenges, our own self-limiting beliefs, or the ever-changing and negative opinions of some of the people we encounter.

Your journal can be something to refer to as a reminder that good things have happened in your life, and that there are things for which you can be grateful for today.

I like the quote in the image below, as it’s a good reminder to learn from the past, while we keep a positive focus on the future.  The quote says “Our eyes are in front because it is better to look ahead than to look back.  Don’t dwell on things from the past. Learn from them and keep moving forward.

Until my next post, have a great day.

the past and the future Gain Insight as You Journal About Your Daily Struggles

Respond Wisely to Change and Experience Exceptional Growth

In the past, I haven’t responded to some to some of the changes I experienced.

We all go through different types of transitions in our lives.  Relationships end.  Companies downsize and we lose our jobs.  Many people start new businesses with positive expectations and a bit of fear. Many others begin to address their issues and struggles with anxiety or depression.

Hopefully, you learn something new every day that challenges you to take action outside of your comfort zone.

Our natural response to a transition we are experiencing is “Will I make it through this?” and “Will I be able to handle this?”

In this post, I’d like to share three practical ideas you can use whenever you experience a personal or professional changes in your life.

These ideas are ones I wish I had applied years ago. I suppose that the motto “live and learn” applies with these ideas.  My hope is that you will be encouraged with today’s post – and that these ideas will inspire you to take action.

Get Over the “I Can’t” Mentality 

This first tip applies to me as much as it does to anyone else.

How many times has this mentality or mindset affected you in your own life?

How many times have you told yourself “I can’t do this”?  Have you ever talked yourself out of pursuing a major goal in your life?

If you’re not careful, the “I can’t” mentality can begin to hinder you when you are faced with a new change in your life.

Who says that you can’t do something?  How do they know?  What qualifies your critic as an expert?

We all need to be careful about ideas we adopt about ourselves, our capabilities, and potential in life.  None of us truly know what we can do until we step out and try something new.

I have spent the majority of my life telling myself that I couldn’t accomplish my goals.  When we fill our lives with self-doubt, it’s easy to feel depressed about life, and anxious about the future.

In one of my previous posts, I included an image called “Strength” that had some very practical statements that are affirming and encouraging.

I saved this image on this website and you can view it in a different tab here.

One of the statements that I particularly like is “I can do anything I put my mind to.”

Once you believe and affirm that you can face any change or transition successfully, your life will begin to reflect that new belief.  It’s not easy.  We need to keep affirming and encouraging ourselves that we can (especially when we feel like we can’t!)

Recognize That Obstacles and Challenges can bring out the Best in You

Years ago, if you would have asked me if life’s challenges could be a good thing, I would have likely said “no”.

Quite often, I think we tend to equate problems as a bad thing, and as something we desperately want to avoid at all costs.

If we didn’t have problems, issues, defeats, mistakes, and obstacles, life wouldn’t be a struggle in any way.

But how would we ever grow that way?

If we didn’t have pain, hardships, and a few trials along the way, success and joy wouldn’t quite have the same meaning, would it?

Writing for this blog has been a challenge for me.  Sometimes a few of my posts might be similar, but it is my goal to make this blog practical and valuable for anyone who reads it.

Starting this website has been a huge learning curve for me.  I have needed technical help with it.  Taking my online courses has been a big step outside of my comfort zone.  I’ve had to learn more about self-discipline.  I’m hoping to develop better character as a person and as an online business owner.

I have also needed to take action outside of my comfort zone and push past fear.  I’m learning more and more about this every day.

The obstacles and challenges we face in life can bring out the best in us, but only when we choose to learn and grow from these experiences.

Instead of Getting Overwhelmed, Seek Help, Support, and Guidance

Through more and more trial and error, I’m beginning to realize the value of the advice, support, and help of others.

It’s tempting to go through life as some type of “lone ranger” mentality and pretend to have all the answers.

I believe that many people don’t want to appear confused or in need of help, support, or encouragement.  Because of our human pride, we often don’t want to somehow appear “needy” or weak.

When our self-confidence is low, we also don’t want to appear to be inferior.

Not having all of the answers is not a sign of weakness, it’s part of daily reality.

If you’re going through a difficult change or transition, why not seek the advice, help, and support of other people who have gone through what you’re going through?

There is no need to “reinvent the wheel” (for lack of a better term).  From my own experience, I would now be further ahead in my own life if I had spent more time learning from the wisdom of others, rather than go ahead and make mistakes.

I’d like to encourage you to seek out the wisdom, guidance, and support of others.  You don’t need to accept all of the advice you hear.  You can always check the advice you get with other sources.

Consider how much further ahead in life you could be if you’re willing to seek help and wise counsel.

All the best to you as you address any issues with anxiety or depression and as you go through personal changes or transitions in your life.

I like the quote in the image below from Helen Keller, which says “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet.  Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”

Until my next post, have a great day.

character quote Helen Keller Respond Wisely to Change and Experience Exceptional Growth

Three Ideas to Help You Overcome Your Past Regrets

It’s not an easy thing to admit that I have my own regrets from the past.

We all have done or said things that we would rather forget.  I’m sure that many (if not all of us) have made decisions and choices we would rather go back and do over.

I haven’t read many of the books from Dr. Phil McGraw.  What I have read has been rather direct and difficult to read, probably because it contains a lot of truth that is hard to face.

I think Dr. Phil once wrote “You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.”

In this post, I’d like to help you address any issues you have with your past regrets.  We’ll think about three consequences of this self-defeating emotion, and three ideas you can use to overcome the “regret habit” in your own life.

Your Mental and Emotional Energy Become Focused on the Unchangeable Past

When you start focusing and wallowing in regret, you are essentially focusing on things from the past that you cannot change.

In the past, I made a few career and education decisions that weren’t in my best interest.

I got involved in some online training that wasn’t a good fit for me.  I found the training to be overwhelming and difficult to follow.  Unfortunately, I made a couple of quick decisions to invest in these courses, and didn’t do my own “due diligence” with these companies.

I have struggled with the poor choices that I made.  Looking back, I got caught up in my own world of regret, and began to “beat myself up” over these past decisions.  

My life had become filled with “if-only” statements… “If only I had taken the time to make a better decision.  If only I had taken the time and not been pressured by their high-pressured sales tactics.  If only I had checked them out online before proceeding.”

If you struggle with any of your past choices, take a few moments and ask yourself:

  • “What did I learn from this experience?”
  • What valuable lesson can I use from this regrettable choice?”
  • “Can I use this experience for my own future benefit, and to help other people?”

With one of the online companies I am referring to, I still have some valuable information I can use in my life and in my online business.  It’s only a complete loss if I choose to think about the experience in that negative light.

Your Self-Esteem and Self-Image Suffers When You Get Too “Wrapped Up” or Focused on Your Past Regrets

I like a quote I once read from William James, who is a famous psychologist:

There is a law in psychology that if you form a picture in your mind of what you would like to be, and you keep and hold that picture there long enough, you will soon become exactly as you have been thinking.

Instead of labeling yourself as a “loser” or a “failure” or “inadequate” for your goals, why not begin to think of yourself as strong, capable, courageous, worthy of success, unique, and valuable?

I am slowly learning to not personalize my past mistakes and failures.

Our identities and value are not determined by our circumstances, our past, or other people’s opinions.

Your worth is based on your supreme value as a human being.  Remember that you were placed on this earth for a reason.

I don’t want to overuse quotes on this post, but this morning I found an excellent quote from St. Francis de Sales, who was a Catholic Bishop who lived during the 16th century:

Have patience with all things but first with yourself.  Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being. You’re a perfectly valuable, creative, worthwhile person simply because you exist.  And no amount of triumphs or tribulations can ever change that.  Unconditional self-acceptance is the core of a peaceful mind.

This quote encourages and inspires me to view myself, my mistakes, and my value in a much better light.  I hope it encourages you as you overcome your past regrets.

When You Focus on Your Past Regrets, It Hinders Your Progress in Life

All we have is this present moment.  It’s hard to remember that when we start thinking about our past regrets.

We can’t go back and “undo” the past.

I’ve found that the emotion of regret can often lead to doubts about my abilities and capabilities.

Whenever I started thinking about my own regrettable mistakes and decisions from the past, it affected my well-being and chances of success. It’s difficult to be productive, happy, and in a good mood when we become focused on a negative event from the past.

One of my mentors kept reinforcing to me that “the past does not equal the future.”

I have often needed to remind myself of this valuable statement.

Today is a new day.  Each moment is a new opportunity for you. What choice will you make with it?  Will you decide to make the most of your time as you focus on what you can do now?  Or will you allow your past regrets to dominate your thinking and diminish the quality of your life?

The choice is yours.  I hope you will choose wisely.  Your life and goals are well worth the effort.

I like the quote in the image below (from the website called which says “Never let mistakes define who you are. Only you choose who you are and what you become.”

Until my next post, have a great day.

never let mistakes define who you are Three Ideas to Help You Overcome Your Past Regrets